Jul 222010
 

 

My garden never fails me.

For the past couple of weeks, my output at work seems to consist only of bumps, detours, technical failures, a growing to-do pile and a number of opportunities to really embarrass myself. (You may have noticed the lack of blog posts…. or the unfinished ones that I must of scheduled to ‘publish’ instead of ‘save.) You get the point: not at my best.

I don’t believe in writer’s block but I really don’t like to write when I’m out of sorts. I owe you better. So I gave up and went out to my garden.

I was rewarded with a colander full of luscious, thumb-nail sized blueberries, still warm from the sun. There are so many that the branches are bent.

As I picked off and discarded the dozens that the birds had nibbled, I smiled, thinking back on last month’s “strawberry wars.” Our strawberry bed is just a year old. Per instructions from the landscaping expert, three dozen tender plants were protected with ‘cages’ and surrounded by mulch and covered with a fine mesh net. Strong-smelling soap and moth balls completed the barricade.

Want to guess how many strawberries I harvested? If I said “10” I would be exaggerating. Not ten boxes — ten berries. The chipmunks and the red squirrels got the rest.

A garden or a farm can teach kids all sorts of wonderful things: teamwork, discipline, hard work… There’s the satisfaction that comes when they (literally) harvest the fruits of their labor… and, of course, giving.

Generally, when I think about using the garden to teach our kids to give, I think in terms of sharing the harvest with family, friends and neighbors. The “bountiful blueberries and the stolen strawberries” provided me with another thought, one that will solve my strawberry problem.

I’m going to plant more strawberries — and let the critters have them. That’s right: add more plants and subtract the cages, mesh and other deterrents. Let ’em eat their fill. Don’t worry about protecting the berries. Give up. Give ’em away.

If this approach works in the garden like it does everywhere else in life we’ll have more berries than we can handle. And,if not, it won’t matter — I’ve decided that the sane choice is to enjoy feeding them!

May 092010
 

by guest poster, Tom Tuohy

Patricia Tuohy was born in Chicago, Illinois. As a young mother she was left to raise her four young children alone. Mrs. Tuohy dedicated her entire life to making certain all of her children had the opportunity to achieve their dreams.

When her youngest son, Tom Tuohy, graduated from law school and began his career, Mrs. Tuohy was filled with pride. Knowing, however, how difficult it had been for her family to reach that point, she could not help feeling something was missing. Mrs. Tuohy’s heart was dwelling on the many other children who had big dreams but small opportunities.

On a night which will always be remembered as the night Dreams for Kids was born, Mrs. Tuohy took note of the many joyous, blessed people who had come together for a night of celebration. She looked around the room and said to her son. “Now that you’ve achieved your dreams, it’s time to help other kids achieve theirs.

“I remember that one moment as if it had occurred yesterday,” recalls Tom Tuohy. When my mom made that request, we both smiled. We were standing in a room filled with the good fortune of my life, which could have turned out quite differently. I was the youngest child. My mother somehow found the financial means to raise us all on a $6,000 a year salary. When she took a second job, all the kids began working as well. It was difficult for my mom every single day. She carried on with a silent dignity, but there were many times when I wondered<read the rest here>


May 032010
 

I think that ALL Moms make a difference. And no matter what our skill level we can always get better at what we do.

Earlier today I was chatting online with a young friend in another country. She was sharing something her Mom had said that had hurt her feelings, but she closed her e-mail by saying “I know how much my Mom loves me so when she says things like that I just smile and stay silent.” Wow.

As far as Mother’s Day goes, I’ve collected a bunch of interesting sites and articles that I’ll share with you this week. Some are serious and some are fun.

First, please go back and read my last post — A Promise to His Mom — about my friend Tom Tuohy, his organization (Dreams for Kids) and their hope to address the needs of homeless kids in this country.

The first is a site that features celebrity mothers who use their status to help others.

The second is a site created by a not-so-famous Mom named Beth. Beth has combined her background in juvenile justice with her status as a student and a Mom to create a really thoughtful, comprehensive site about bullying. She incorporates her thoughts and experience with those of others and has developed a really good list of resources.

Feeling overwhelmed? Like you can’t make a difference? I get there….

“Between the great things we cannot do and the small things we will not do, lies the danger that we shall do nothing.” – Adolph Monod (1802-1856) Reformed pastor and theologian.

Visiting any of those sites and adding your voice — in the form of a comment or an e-mail– helps let people know that you think they’re on the right track. Trust me — that support is a small thing that can mean a lot!