Jun 072010
 


It’s no secret that I believe one of the important characteristics shared by truly successful people is a commitment to giving.  Most of the people I’ve interviewed on the topic get as excited about sharing the results of their efforts as they do by the actual accomplishments that put them in a position to share.

One of the ways to teach our kids about giving is to model it.  Another, to notice and talk about the ways that others who give.  This can lead to great conversations about the ‘hows’ and the ‘whats’ of giving.  For example, if you liked the recent baseball post,  you might have a conversation about Galarraga giving Joyce the benefit of the doubt.  Or Joyce giving his honesty.  We can give our time, our money, our awareness, our support, our best effort, our full attention….  the list long.  And a long list helps bring giving ‘into the now’ rather than making it a ‘someday, far-away’ goal.

A couple of months ago I was intrigued by a headline reading “Unemployed Man Gives Away $10 Every Day.”  Reading on I discovered that Reed Sandridge had lost his job at a DC non-profit and decided to explore the concept of ‘giving’ in this manner.  Known by close friends as a ‘sometimes skeptic’ I delayed sharing the story, waiting to see if he would follow through.

Reed is almost halfway through his ‘Year of Giving’ and has been blogging about it here.

It looks like he is about halfway through his experiment and has been faithful to his commitment.  It also seems that he has, from time-to-time, had a little trouble keeping his blog updated.  I think there are lots of people who can relate to that!

As I read through some of the comments, the ‘sometimes skeptic’ softened a bit as a number of people questioned his motives.  The comments led me to a question of my own:  Do motives matter?  When teaching our kids to be givers, does it matter why they give?

How about giving us your thoughts on the subject?

Jun 092009
 

With summer just around the corner, many parents are starting to think about vacation activities that will keep their kids entertained and safe… while improving skills in at least one area of their lives. 

If you are the parent of a young entrepreneur, you are probably watching your child count down the days until the end of the school year so that there is more time to devote to updating neighbors’ computers, helping with Mom or Dad’s home business or marketing their own special brand of pet-care services! 

Even if most of your plan for the summer involves everyone staying close to home, it is not unheard of for even the youngest student to contribute a little more time to the good of the household.  In fact, the process can be great learning for the whole family. 

I am a fan of a ‘blended’ approach to family chores: there are the things that we all do to keep the household running smoothly simply because we live here and care for one another.  Then, especially during the summer months, there are jobs that can be done for money.  One approach is to identify work that you might pay someone else to do and offer that opportunity to your kids first.  Let’s use ‘keeping the family car clean’ as an example. 

Making an agreement about this can provide ‘teachable moments’ in several areas.  It opens the door for discussion about:

  • what you normally spend for car care services,
  • negotiating the car-cleaning schedule,
  • the timeline and quality you expect
  • and, of course, how much you are willing to pay! 

 

Summertime is a great time for the real world lessons that will give your kids a leg up on the skills they need to succeed later in life!