Dec 282012
 

“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” – Elizabeth Stone

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The first time I read that quote I got goosebumps. I thought about when my son was little and the amount of time I spent worrying. Sometimes it was legitimate. Other times, even though I wasn’t particularly over-protective, it was that unnamed, irrational fear that shows up just because….

I don’t really KNOW why it shows up. Maybe because we love our families SO much that we worry for their safety. Or maybe it’s because we worry about our own ability to respond well if something unforeseen was to happen.

How do you teach your kids about risk?

It takes guts to be a parent.

If you’ve ever done something you thought couldn’t be done, then you KNOW the feeling of exhilaration and competence that comes along accomplishment. Guiding our kids through achieving more and more difficult tasks helps them learn that they can. “They can.”

What is it they can do? Well, that’s between you and them. I just think it’s important that people learn that they can.

Here’s one of my favorite posts about that. “Mom, I’m a Waterskier!”

And a site where moms and people who love them go to change the world

Focus on the future helps us take a deep breath and remember that it is important to teach our kids to accurately evaluate risk and take the steps needed to get where they want to go.

Because they can.

Nov 202009
 

Well… whether they call it “slow parenting,” “raising free range children” (or maybe even “parenting with the Four Foundations”) people are finally catching on to the idea that when we do too much for our children we actually create the results we’re trying to avoid.

Yes, the super-involved helicopter parent has the best of intentions… to protect their children from all of society’s real or imagined ills.  Instead, they are setting their kids up so that they are ill-equipped to handle routine stuff — never mind adversity.

Thanks, TIME, for a great article.

 

Can These Parents Be Saved: The Growing Backlash Against Over-Parenting – TIME.