Jun 172010
 

I have a lot of fun with holiday-related blog posts.  It’s a great excuse to cruise around the web, reading up on history, customs and other’s traditions.

As for history, I was surprised to find that Father’s Day did not become an official holiday until it was permanently established by President Richard Nixon 1972.  That’s right — it’s only 38 years old.

The first observance took place in Spokane in 1910 — two years after the first Mother’s Day observance.  It seems that Sonora Smart Dodd was listening to a Mother’s Day sermon that brought to mind the sacrifices, love and care that she and her five brothers received from their father after the loss of their mother.

It’s hard to imaging the the idea of honoring both parents was controversial but the idea initially met with mixed reviews.  Some saw it as an opportunity to remind fathers of the importance of caring for their children, to improve connections and to help fathers to embrace the full measure of their responsibility. Senator Margaret Chase Smith advocated for adoption of the holiday writing “Either we honor both our parents, mother and father, or let us desist from honoring either one. But to single out just one of our two parents and omit the other is the most grievous insult imaginable.”

So, in honor of Dads everywhere here are four of my favorite quotes about fathers.

*My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard.  Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.”  “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply.  “We’re raising boys.”  ~Harmon Killebrew MLB All-Star and founder of the Harmon Killebrew Foundation

*He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.  ~Clarence Budington Kelland, author

*Spread the diaper in the position of the diamond with you at bat.  Then fold second base down to home and set the baby on the pitcher’s mound.  Put first base and third together, bring up home plate and pin the three together.  Of course, in case of rain, you gotta call the game and start all over again.  ~Jimmy Piersal, on how to diaper a baby, 1968

*When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around.  But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.  ~Mark Twain, “Old Times on the Mississippi” Atlantic Monthly, 1874

Feb 132009
 
Mailboxes - Canyon Road, Santa Fe, New Mexico

Mailboxes. Canyon Road, Santa Fe, NM (Photo credit: David Schroeder)

 

Nobody is born knowing how to set goals. It’s another on that long list of things that our children need to learn before they leave our care.

However, even parents who are accustomed to setting and achieving goals may not know how to teach that skill – especially to their children.

That’s where it pays to be S.M.A.R.T. The letters stand for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Timely. It’s a great way to
remember all of the steps to creating useful goals.

Specific: It would be nice if “I’ll do better” was enough to get the job done, but good goals need to be worded a bit differently. “I will make my bed without being reminded for five days in a row” or “Pull all weeds from the flower bed next to the mailbox” are clear and specific.

Measurable: You may want to substitute the term “observable”. “Get a better grade in English” is tougher to assess than “Get 100% on my next three spelling tests.” It’s certainly measurable and observable!

Achievable: Let’s go back to that pesky English grade. “Getting an ‘A’ in English” may not be possible simply because someone else actually gives the grades. However, an achievable goal in this area might be: “All of my English papers will be submitted on time, neatly typed, properly footnoted, free from spelling errors and meeting or exceeding requirements for length and content.” Attainment of THAT goal is certainly achievable (and may lead to that ‘A’ grade as well.)

Realistic: This is similar but has to do with choices and resources. Lots of people dream of a career in pro sports, but few of us have the required talent. This may be a time that you’ll have to get really creative but perhaps you can help a child formulate a goal that incorporates Tiger Wood’s generosity or Cal Ripkin’s work ethic.

Timely: A goal is a dream with a deadline. Help it along by adding an appropriate time frame. Whether it’s a deadline (“by October 1st…”)
or a time period (“every day for a week”) it is a factor that helps move from planning to action.

Social science research tells us that there is a correlation between goal attainment & personal fulfillment. Imagine… having the skills to
choose what we want and ability to get that job done helps us feel good. What a great gift to give someone you love.