May 092010
 

by guest poster, Tom Tuohy

Patricia Tuohy was born in Chicago, Illinois. As a young mother she was left to raise her four young children alone. Mrs. Tuohy dedicated her entire life to making certain all of her children had the opportunity to achieve their dreams.

When her youngest son, Tom Tuohy, graduated from law school and began his career, Mrs. Tuohy was filled with pride. Knowing, however, how difficult it had been for her family to reach that point, she could not help feeling something was missing. Mrs. Tuohy’s heart was dwelling on the many other children who had big dreams but small opportunities.

On a night which will always be remembered as the night Dreams for Kids was born, Mrs. Tuohy took note of the many joyous, blessed people who had come together for a night of celebration. She looked around the room and said to her son. “Now that you’ve achieved your dreams, it’s time to help other kids achieve theirs.

“I remember that one moment as if it had occurred yesterday,” recalls Tom Tuohy. When my mom made that request, we both smiled. We were standing in a room filled with the good fortune of my life, which could have turned out quite differently. I was the youngest child. My mother somehow found the financial means to raise us all on a $6,000 a year salary. When she took a second job, all the kids began working as well. It was difficult for my mom every single day. She carried on with a silent dignity, but there were many times when I wondered<read the rest here>


May 052010
 
Care Packs

Care Packs (Photo credit: blossominc)

 

Several years ago I had the privilege of working with a group of foster parents to develop a home-based substance abuse prevention program. I loved that job!

I got to know and admire some incredible people — both individuals and couples — who willingly and lovingly tackled really difficult situations in order to provide kids with safety, stability and security. And love.

I appreciate the fact that, through the internet, some of have recently been able to reconnect. So, in the week of Mother’s Day, I am proud to call your attention to a wonderful group of people I sometimes refer to as ‘professional parents.’ May is Foster Care Month.

If you’ve ever considered becoming a foster parent please know that the need is great. And that organizations will NOT allow you to take on these challenges without proper training and support. And, in my experience, the training is useful for any parent.

Here are some other resources.

Connect for Kids brings concerned adults and young people—whether they’re new to the issues or already activists—to compelling, accurate information and context on children’s issues, as well as tools to take action. Good information for anyone interested in child advocacy; included here because of foster-family tools.

The National Foster Parent Association site can help direct you to local resources.

Rowell Foster Children’s Positive Plan helps foster children through fine arts, sports and job opportunities.

The Dave Thomas Adoption Foundation is dedicated to this vision: every child will have a permanent home and a loving family.”

I like the slogan for this site: you don’t have to be perfect to be a perfect parent.

And to ‘my’ foster parents? Thanks. Thanks for the coffee and the conversation and sharing the laughs and the tears. You have touched the lives of lots of kids. You touched my life, too.

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May 032010
 

I think that ALL Moms make a difference. And no matter what our skill level we can always get better at what we do.

Earlier today I was chatting online with a young friend in another country. She was sharing something her Mom had said that had hurt her feelings, but she closed her e-mail by saying “I know how much my Mom loves me so when she says things like that I just smile and stay silent.” Wow.

As far as Mother’s Day goes, I’ve collected a bunch of interesting sites and articles that I’ll share with you this week. Some are serious and some are fun.

First, please go back and read my last post — A Promise to His Mom — about my friend Tom Tuohy, his organization (Dreams for Kids) and their hope to address the needs of homeless kids in this country.

The first is a site that features celebrity mothers who use their status to help others.

The second is a site created by a not-so-famous Mom named Beth. Beth has combined her background in juvenile justice with her status as a student and a Mom to create a really thoughtful, comprehensive site about bullying. She incorporates her thoughts and experience with those of others and has developed a really good list of resources.

Feeling overwhelmed? Like you can’t make a difference? I get there….

“Between the great things we cannot do and the small things we will not do, lies the danger that we shall do nothing.” – Adolph Monod (1802-1856) Reformed pastor and theologian.

Visiting any of those sites and adding your voice — in the form of a comment or an e-mail– helps let people know that you think they’re on the right track. Trust me — that support is a small thing that can mean a lot!