Jan 282010
 

 

cover of what kids need to succeed

Everyone loves their kids.  We want to see them grow into prosperous, self-reliant, fulfilled adults who reach their goals and give to others.  But what separates high-achieving adults from those who fail?

It’s not all genetics, talent or luck.  It’s something that every parent (or grandparent or foster parent or coach or teacher or mentor) can provide.  It’s the Four Foundations.

In What Kids Need to Succeed: Four Foundations of Adult Achievement you’ll see that high achievers share a common childhood experience:  four critical life lessons were passed on to them in their early years.

After all, you’re not raising a child…. you’re raising a future adult.  Thanks for joining us.  Please share your thoughts about raising good grown-ups.

This book was chosen as the book of the month by the Direct Selling Women’s Association.  It has been published in Korea, Russia and Nigeria and was chosen as part of a multi-authored toolkit giving parents a wide range of methods to make teaching and learning fun.

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Oct 202009
 
Meditation

Meditation (Photo credit: Moyan_Brenn)

 

Many of us think of Buddhism and other meditative approaches to life as very passive.  However I as I learn more about the topic one of the things that strikes me is the discipline involved when people learn to meditate and make that a regular part of their lives.  Running shoe commercials that urge us to ‘just do it’ have nothing on people who sit, motionless and silent, for a set period of time every single day.

I like the contrast between urgency and committed action.  I suspect that the ad budget in question is aimed at those of us who struggle with our commitment to exercise and not the spectacular athletes featured in the media.

As different as they may seem on the surface Buddhism and “success psychology” share a lot.  Take these words from noted Buddhist teacher John Daido Loori:

The only limits that exist are the ones we set for ourselves. Take off the blinders, release the chain, push down the walls of the cage and advance a step forward. When you’ve taken that step, acknowledge it, let it go, and advance another step. And when you finally arrive at enlightenment, acknowledge it, let it go and take a step forward.”

If I’d given you that quote without background would you think it belonged to one of our country’s great Buddhist teachers?  Or would you attribute it to your favorite motivational speaker or writer.

Maybe the goals that mean the most are the ones we “become” rather than the ones that we “do.”

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Aug 192009
 

At the age of 8, the little girl was taking daily insulin injections for her newly diagnosed Type 1 diabetes. The following year she lost her Dad to heart disease. Growing up in a single-parent household, one of the ways she kept herself occupied was by reading. Although she loved reading Nancy Drew (“girl detective”) books, a doctor suggested that her health might not permit her to follow in Nancy’s footsteps. The then-popular TV show “Perry Mason” introduced her to another part of the legal system; by the time Sonia was ten, she knew that she would leave the housing project, go to college and become a lawyer.

 

The 111th justice of the US Supreme Court is the third female justice and the first Hispanic to serve on the high court. She grew up in a housing project in the Bronx. Her mother, Celia, served her country in the Women’s Army Corps and went on to work as a telephone operator and a practical nurse. In addition to her hardworking example, Celia stressed education. Their home is reported to have been one of the few in the project to own a set of encyclopedia. (Today’s equivalent might be a home computer with an Internet connection.)

 

Celia’s commitment to higher education paid off: Sonia graduated from Princeton University and received her law degree from Yale. Later, she taught at the New York University School of Law and Columbia Law School.

 

One does not have to be a student of the law to know a little bit about Justice Sotomayor – anyone old enough to remember the 1994 Major League Baseball strike knows who she is: the judge who issued the preliminary injunction that kept the owners from bypassing the existing collective bargaining process and bringing in replacement players.

 

After a more than 200-day strike, her ruling allowed the players to return to work – the day before the new (1995) season was scheduled to begin.

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People sometimes say that the Four Foundations of Adult Achievement are “old school,” that they are not relevant any more. I see “Four Foundations” stories in the headlines every day; Justice Sotomayor is just one more example – even if she is a Yankees’ fan!